Relationships are meant to be built slowly and over time. Those relationships that move too quickly, place personal safety at risk and may result in heartache and pain.
How will you protect your safety? Unfortunately, teens often don't want to share their whereabouts. Many feel that sharing where they are going is an invasion of privacy. Instead, sharing whereabouts ensures safety.
Tell where you are going, who you are going with and when you anticipate being back..
Take a fully charged cell phone and notify someone when plans change.
Look around and notice where you are, are you safe? If something goes wrong what is your exit plan?
Always remember, if you are away from your caretaker, you are responsible for your own safety!
May all of your relationships be healthy.
What's Wrong with these Scenarios?
1. Ty and Kyle had been dating for over a year and Kyle had decided that he wanted to see other people. So, he started spending less time with Ty. Ty knew that something was up but she was unsure what it was. She found out through Kyle's facebook account that he had been interested in breaking-up. Ty's heart was broken.
She immediately broke up with Kyle and stopped speaking with him.
Kyle should have been honest with Ty but instead he had broken her trust by going behind her back. This is not the way to tell someone that you are interested in changing your relationship. If you do, the result is not only a broken relationship but also a loss friendship.
2. Pat and David both (15 years old) have been going out for two to three weeks. Pat rode her bike to David's early in the afternoon and was invited to go out for burgers with his family at 6pm. She had forgotten to leave her family a note and she left her cell phone behind. When she had gotten to David's, his parents were out. David said, that they had left to run errands. David also shared that he had wanted Pat to go for a swim with him. Pat had not prepared for swimming and agreed to swim anyway.
Wow! First off, Pat should have sent a text and left a note telling her parents where she was going. When Pat had gotten to David's home, she should have shared that she would be back later when she realized his parents were not home. Lastly, she should have never agreed to swim with David. They had only been together for two weeks and that is not enough time to build a trusting and safe relationship.
To build trust David could have called Pat and shared that his parents weren't home. They could have had discussion about what they would be doing and agreed on an agenda in advance.
3.You've met someone online and for about two weeks you have been texting and emailing. You don't know this person's last name. You decide to meet for dinner, you go alone and don't tell any of your friends where you are going.
On line: be careful with whom you meet! There are a lot of predators who seek to deceive and hurt people. Prior to going out on a date get the person's first and last name. Google them, investigate to see if anyone knows them or can stand up for their character.Once you agree to go out on a date with someone that you meet on line, you must ensure your safety by first meeting them in a public place. Secondly,always tell a friend or a parent where you are going and with whom you are going!! Always have a friend call you several times during the date to make sure you are safe.
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Always remember: Dating is an investigative process and it takes time to build a trusting relationship.